Be Kind to Yourself!
This seems pretty simple, doesn’t it? Being kind to your self is actually really tough.
When you have challenging days or you’re struggling to meet one of your goals, the negative self-talk starts. Sometimes we repeat what we’ve been told by our family and friends, or we repeat what we think isn’t enough.
In one of my previous Tuesday Mantra’s, I mentioned something about expectation. That is where expectation comes into place again.
Expectation does not have a place in your life. It will only cause you more stress and anxiety than needed. There is no need for it. Goals are the only expectation but they have no set timeline. Don’t set one either, it’s not worth it. It just brings expectation back in. Keep them in your mind as a distant path that you’re on. Like for example: one of my big goals is to go to college. I’m on the path to that with my education (getting my high school education currently). It’s there, and I will get there one day. It’s something that is important to me and I always keep my sights on it.
Being kind to yourself starts with the little things. It really does. That is what we try to do for you in the group, to learn to celebrate the little things you’re doing. Even if you only manage to try it or think about it; we celebrate it. Do that with yourself. Reward yourself for everything, even if it’s only a thought of doing it. Even if you had huge anxiety from it, who cares? Don’t focus on that anxiety, focus on the fact you’re in the car and you’re doing it! Focus on the fact your door just closed behind you and you’re on your front step! That is amazing. Focus on the thought of going to your mail box, and reward yourself for thinking of it. Holy Crap Batman! How awesome is that?
See? Get excited.
We’re like toddlers learning to take that first step. How did you react when your children took that first step forward? You cheered them on until they smiled and tried again. Do that with yourself. Do that with us!
When you begin to focus on the good things, you’ll stop focusing on why it isn’t happening fast enough. You’ll be too focused on what you are doing and not on anything else.
It’s the first step to handling sensations. Which will be my theme for a bit as sensations are often a huge dilemma for people.